Stuck in a Shallow Puddle

People jump in and out of relationships/friendships like they are stepping in and out of shallow puddles

These relationships are usually full of drama and chaos

Yet people continue to engage in these shallow, meaningless and stressful relationships

Why?

Because they are getting something out of them

Look at yourself

I believe the accountability is ours if we engage in these types of Jerry Springer relationships (disclaimer: this is not applicable to IPV, abusive and traumatic situations…)

We need to start examining our sense of self-worth, confidence and self-love if we continue to jump in and out of shallow relationships; relationships that devalue us…cause us grief, unhappiness and chaos

Stop and ask yourself these questions about your relationships

Are they are honest? People who are engaged in real, grown-up and healthy relationships are honest…

Do you communicate? People in deep and lasting relationships talk with one another about their joy, sadness, concerns, life, their future, their plans…..in respectful ways

Is there drama? Do you feel like you are on a b rated talk show? Drama is not a necessary component for a healthy, deep and long lasting relationship

Do you share common interests?

Is it built on support?

Do you build one another up instead of pull one another apart?

Is there jealousy, control, anger? RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG

Do you trust one another?

Are you safe?

Can you be 100 percent your true self (sane and insane)?

Puddle Jumping  can be fun for a day or two but after a while it gets old….you get dirty, cold and tired….you deserve more

Stay out of the puddles and find some real relationships

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G