Living Without Regrets....Not if You are Living

Regrets

People have regrets

I have regrets….very old ones and some more recent  

I have been told by people I should not have regrets….regrets are bad…poison…

Yet I have never totally gotten rid of my regrets

How is it humanly possible to have no regrets?

In my opinion people who have no regrets are either completely out of touch with themselves, liars or heavily medicated and over using  Xanax (no offense to my Xanax using readers)

To be alive is to have regrets

I sometimes regret things on a daily basis….sometimes not

What do I do with them….

I do not look at them as bad….I don’t let them poison me

I don’t ignore them or pretend I don’t have them

I don’t overreact about them, create unnecessary drama over them, ruminate on them or obsess over them

I don’t live in the past and I certainly don’t let them ruin my today

I pull them apart as they come

I examine them and ask myself  “is there anything from this moment  of regret

that I can learn from”?

Some of those moments have been deeply painful

But

I use them as motivators to change my behavior

I use them as reminders  

I access them as ways to push myself into taking risks

They fuel me

They teach me

They humble me

They remind me of the kind of person I want to be and how I want to live

As the days progress I do find myself having fewer and fewer regrets because of how I handle them

Don’t drown in a sea of regrets

Swim through them and head to the shore….look back at them, don’t repeat them….learn from them ….they can be your  life savers for today if you let them…

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G

 

 

Time for BiFocals

Many times sighted people go through life without seeing

Looking at people and not really seeing them

Avoid making eye contact because they can’t be bothered; not enough time

Taking walks outside but not seeing the beauty around them

When was the last time you really took time to see…to fully see

When was the last time that you looked at what was hanging on your walls, really looked at the pictures, the art, the paintings

When was the last time you stopped and really looked around and noticed your surroundings

I stopped really seeing a while ago

I can’t remember when it happened but I know why it happened...too busy..too much going on...stuck in my head..life...

As I walked along a serene and beautiful path today I wondered about the last time I really saw things…fully and clearly

It made me think of being a child

Children see everything

Every color, every leaf, every blade of grass

Every face, every animal, every scene

So much so that parents get frustrated because they want to stop and look at everything, study everything….they are in awe of everything around them

I want to get that child sight back

When I was in my twenties I could sit for hours in a park and just be content….observing

Life took over and I got busy and distracted

Instead I gained an ability to look but not see

An ability to sort out things and ignore them

An ability to look straight through and not have to register

An ability to multi-task; a busy mind

This ability has served its purpose but as I get older I don’t need or want those abilities to be so sharp anymore...

I want to practice and master looking through the eyes of a child again….seeing everything around me…not missing a life moment

It is time to refocus….on the beauty of life

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G.

 

The Purpose of My Life: A New Gucci Bag

I haven’t blogged much since returning from Africa. I do apologize. It has been a tough adjustment.

Over the past few weeks I have faced some big decisions.  They have been difficult and have caused disappointment.

I recently said to someone “I want to make the right decision” and the response was “there is no right decision in many cases in life”…..

So true….

Having gone through this decision making process has caused me to do some big analyzing of my life….

What’s its purpose?

I am not sure yet…

But I do know what it is not...

It is not enough to go to work every day doing the same thing with the same people and being totally disengaged from what is happening in the world

It is not a life full of plastic and North Face (no offense just a metaphor)

It is not spending time with people that are clueless about real world issues

It is not listening to the constant complaints of people who have first world problems are selfish, narcissistic and privileged

It is not shallow

It is not conforming to what others think I should be doing

It is not focusing on career and money

What is the purpose of your life…?

It doesn’t matter if you don’t know…I am not 100% sure myself…

What matters is that we are thinking about it….

What matters is that we are not losing sight of what and who is important in life

What matters is that we remember life passes in a whisper

What matters is that we DO have a purpose and 2014 is when we will discover  and honor that purpose in our lives

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G.