EXCUSE ME!!

“The day you take complete responsibility for yourself, the day you stop making any excuses, that’s the day you start to the top”

Excuses Excuses Excuses

I myself have been guilty of falling into the trap of excuses.

I have pretty much overcome excuses for myself. I don’t blame others for me not doing what I want to do or what I need to do…I am living my life now with no excuses and it feels empowering…

I have always wanted to travel…I am traveling now…no more excuses…

The one area of growth is getting trapped by the excuses of others…I still get sucked into that vortex…

Either validating their excuses or making excuses for their behaviors..

If someone is treating me badly I try and excuse their behavior by saying “they are having a hard time” “life is difficult for them” “they don’t communicate well”

While all this may be true (most of the time it is) that does not mean I have to sit around and be treated badly by someone…friends, family, partners, strangers, or colleagues….

Making excuses for someone is different than having empathy for someone. We all have tough times. I empathize for people but I also don’t want to get trapped anymore by making excuses for people or validating their excuses.

So how do I balance this…

I have decided that if I am being treated badly or I perceive I am being treated badly, it is my responsibility to disengage. I am giving myself permission to empathize with someone’s situation but I will no longer make excuses for their behavior.

I am also committing to not listening to excuses anymore. The repetitive, same old tired story...

Excuses are based on fear...life can not be lived in fear.

 People, like I, have choices. Acceptance or not…wanting something and making excuses on why you can’t have this or that is not acceptable…

If you want something …take a chance….take a risk…stop making excuses…stop being afraid...OR…stop complaining about it and accept it…

Life is about choices not excuses

Choose to live your life for you…no regret…no excuses…no fear..nothing is impossible…stop telling yourself it is…

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G

Lots Learned in Two Days

I have learned a lot about myself the last couple of years but I think I have learned the most about myself the last six months and maybe the most to date about myself over the last forty-eight hours.  

Over the last couple of years I have learned that I have value and my happiness is important. Just as important as anyones..

The last six months

I have learned that there are good relationships to be had and that those should be coveted.

I have learned what unconditional love and acceptance is..

I have learned that the best relationships I have had have been based on solid friendships and genuine concern for the well being of the other before myself…

I have learned to forgive myself and love myself and accept myself as a flawed but fantastic person.

I have learned that I am passionate and emotional and learned to embrace that…what can I say....I am a Scorpio!

I have learned to face my fears and fight them

I have become spiritual

I have been dealt with some shocks and held my ground…stayed steady

I have learned that I am a strong, bad ass woman

I have learned that love is real

The last 48 hours

I have learned that no matter how good  a situation is or how wonderful a person is that nothing is certain

I have learned to deal with ambiguity.

I have been reminded that perceptions in the same situation vary and reminded to appreciate that variety.

I have learned that I don’t like saying goodbye.

I learned that being vulnerable is not being weak

Most of all I learned that there are still some incongruencies  between what my life is and what I want my life to be..

 I learned that I don’t want to wait anymore to address those inconsistencies.

What will I learn from my next 48 hours....

I wonder

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G