Make Excuses or Make it Happen...It is all on YOU

He is Able Who Thinks He is Able-Buddha

So what is the deal with can’t….

I can’t do this and I can’t do that…

Excuses????

I have heard many can’t statements in my life….I have used many cant statements in my life...

Some of the common can’t statements  I have heard

I can’t commit

I can’t forgive

I can’t stop smoking

I can’t lose weight

I can’t find happiness

I can’t be the person you want me to be

I can’t finish my work

I can’t find time for myself

I can’t find purpose and meaning

On and On and On....

So seriously ….my question is what does the word can’t do for a person?

For a long time the word can’t was a defense for me….it protected me from taking any personal responsibility for myself, my life, my dreams, my goals, my health…my relationships

It gave me many excuses to place responsibility on everyone else but myself

Can’t implies the lack of actual ability to physically or mentally do something…

There are things that people are not capable of doing; there are things I am not capable of doing...those are not the things I am talking about..

I am talking about the things you and I say...day after day....things in our control that we can do something about but we WON'T....

We just complain and blame instead

That is not helpful

Do you know what I can’t do

I can’t control people, places, things or situations

But I can control myself

Things important to me can be done...

I might need to modify my expectations, I might need to rearrange, I might need to change plans..... but I have choices to make…I have the responsibility to myself and have nobody else in the world to blame if things don’t work out….but me…

I would rather live life with hope, dreams and potential then waking every morning and filling full of can’ts…

Today the word can’t leaves my vocabulary

Throw it away with me…

Do it, don’t do it, choose it or don’t choose it ….but if it applies to you, your well-being and happiness...... can’t isn’t even an option….

You don’t know unless you give it a go

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G

Wanna Know a Secret??????????????

For a long time I thought that I had to give everything to everyone...

That was how I would show love and be loved...

I don’t feel that way anymore. ..that isn’t what I believe love is today

What I practice today looks different from what I practiced in my past….I confused brotherly love and quite frankly intimate love with co-dependency….not healthy for me and not healthy for you….

Today I understand love in a way I have never understood it before. I understand romantic love, brotherly love, family love and the love I have for my spiritual guider  and most importantly….love for myself. ..

I was blessed to face a crisis a year ago that helped me understand this kind of love…

People loved me so much they let me go…

People loved me so much they wouldn’t let me go…

People loved me so much they let me be insane…

People loved me so much they drug me from the insanity and showed me the light…

People loved me until I could love myself….that is for real

People loved me so much they were honest with me

People loved me so much they taught me to be honest with myself

Today and every day I wake up and I say out loud “how can I come from a place of love today”

I feel like I have the obligation and responsibility to operate from a place of love…not for recognition, rewards or to get something back…

For myself….

I am not perfect but what I do is work to……..

Accept people and love them unconditionally

I love myself enough today that I say no to people….I don’t strip myself spiritually or emotionally because of another…

I have clear and healthy boundaries and loving myself and others sometimes means sticking close to those boundaries

I answer the phone if it rings, I meet people if they want to meet and I listen…I accept people for who they are…

The most important thing I have learned this year and try to practice every day, although not perfect….is coming from a place of love and helpfulness and acceptance of fellow humans without expectations of anything in return…

What I think the secret to serenity and happiness is……

Love with a pure and honest heart, give and receive, listen and talk, help and ask for help, and in the end and most important….don’t expect anyting in return……

Don’t be afraid to try and live like this…don’t be afraid to love and help others…don’t be afraid to love and help yourself

Your life will change for the better…..if you practice this simple philosophy….I did and mine did…

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G.