Why are people so desperate to find someone?
This desperation causes people to lose sight of what is
important
This desperate pursuit of relationships is really perplexing
to me as I get older
I mean the constant need to find someone….looking, looking, looking…
As if you can’t be content unless you have someone
Sacrificing precious time with family and friends….already established relationships in the pursuit of “the one”
Wasting time on the internet looking for someone to date
instead of living life today…in real time…
What is this all about?
I think it is about insecurity, spiritual and emotional
bankruptcy
Why does anyone think that their happiness depends on someone
else…..on finding someone…
Why does anyone think that their loneliness with disappear
if they are always searching for a partner...
All of these things can be distractions to the real problem…
The real problem is you..us
If you can’t be content alone then you will never really be
content in a relationship (alone isn’t two weeks before you jump back on
match.com)
If you can’t be happy in yourself, with yourself, with your
life, then you will never really be
happy in a relationship
If you can’t look around and see the people that love you
and care about you then you will always be lonely
If you are void spiritually then you will always be
searching for someone or something to fill that voidI am not a crazy 40-year old woman making this statement because I am single
I do date...that is not the point here...
I am a crazy 40-year old woman who woke up a
couple of years ago and realized what was important in life
My children and the relationship I have with them
My family
My friends
My God
I am happy today alone and filled with love from all of the
above (and from above) I live my life and fill it with what and who I love
As I live my life surrounded by the people I love, doing the things I love , being happy and fulfilled by faith...I find nothing missing
When and if the time comes for “the one” to appear... that will be an added bonus to what I already have…
My happiness is not dependent on that day.... it will only be enriched by it
Keeping It Real with Dr. Mary G
Disclaimer: if this doesn’t apply to you…then don’t get
yourself all worked up…jump back on Match… I am not judging just offering a
my own perspective J
