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Heartbreak

I have written about love…what I want in love…but not so much about heartbreak...

What does heartbreak mean?

My 11-year old son assures me that a person’s heart cannot break…that a heart is a muscle and that it is all in someone’s head..

Maybe it is in a person’s head…but anyone who has had that in their head knows that it is more complicated than what an 11 year old boy describes…it can be devastating on so many levels...

It can hinder a person’s ability to trust

It can make a person close off to other people

It can make a person cynical and bitter

It can make a person never want to engage in another relationship again…

It almost did that to me when I experienced it…

I felt cheated…taken advantage of…I feel taken off guard..confused…angry…hurt…sad…and I almost slipped into being a cynical...bitter woman...who wanted to run out and adopt 20 cats...

The problem is that I hate cats (no offense to those who love cats...just my allergies) and sitting in bitterness and resentment is not my style..

What I did was

Took time to grieve

Took time to heal

Forgave…Really Forgave

Let Go

Accepted

And Learned…

Heartbreak is a part of the risk of being in a relationship…it is an opportunity to learn what worked...what didn't work...who we were and who we want to be...…next time..

Nothing or no one is worth closing yourself off; becoming resentful, or checking out...

As my heartbreak chapter closes...I can share this..
 

If you are dealing with heartbreak…be nice to yourself...take time…love yourself…hang out with your friends…forgive the person…really forgive the person…after all they were probably not worth your valuable time if they hurt you so badly…..don’t close off…learn and grow for the next time….and for godness sake…

Don’t adopt over two cats in the process!

Keeping it Real with Dr. Mary G.

disclaimer…cat lovers is a metaphor ;)