Desperately Seeking Susan or Sam...Whoever

Why are people so desperate to find someone?

This desperation causes people to lose sight of what is important

 

This desperate pursuit of relationships is really perplexing to me as I get older

I mean the constant need to find someone….looking, looking, looking…

As if you can’t be content unless you have someone

Sacrificing precious time with family and friends….already established relationships in the pursuit of “the one”

Wasting time on the internet looking for someone to date instead of living life  today…in real time…

What is this all about?

I think it is about insecurity, spiritual and emotional bankruptcy

Why does anyone think that their happiness depends on someone else…..on finding someone…

Why does anyone think that their loneliness with disappear if they are always searching for a partner...

All of these things can be distractions to the real problem…

The real problem is you..us

If you can’t be content alone then you will never really be content in a relationship (alone isn’t two weeks before you jump back on match.com)

If you can’t be happy in yourself, with yourself, with your life,  then you will never really be happy in a relationship

If you can’t look around and see the people that love you and care about you then you will always be lonely

If you are void spiritually then you will always be searching for someone or something to fill that void

I am not a crazy 40-year old woman making this statement  because I am single

I do date...that is not the point here...

I am a crazy 40-year old woman who woke up a couple of years ago and realized what was important in life

My children and the relationship I have with them

My family

My friends

My God

I am happy today alone and filled with love from all of the above (and from above)

I live my life and fill it with what and who I love

As I live my life surrounded by the people I love, doing the things I love , being happy and fulfilled by faith...I find nothing missing

When and if the time comes for “the one” to appear... that will be an added bonus to what I already have…

My happiness is not dependent on that day.... it will only be enriched by it

Keeping It Real with Dr. Mary G

Disclaimer: if this doesn’t apply to you…then don’t get yourself all worked up…jump back on Match… I am not judging just offering a my own perspective J